I see it all the time, and yes, I myself can get caught up in shiny object syndrome and daily distractions just as easily as the most well intended entrepreneur. Social media and life in general have made diversions an easy form of procrastination and escaping the actual doing.
But it doesn’t have to be this way. You can get into flow and stay their with so much joy and enthusiasm that it alone will drive the “doing.”
We took the family to a hot-springs pool recently and I learned by watching. This wasn’t some fancy business retreat or motivational course, this was a public hot-springs hidden down a remote road just outside a small town.
My husband sat in a shaded chair while I sat in a lounger next to him. We would occasionally soak in the pool, but we weren’t there for our benefit, we really went for my youngest daughter and her friend. At 14, sometimes you have to coax the bears out of their dens otherwise they’d hibernate all summer long.
I try to find something in every experience that I can learn from. This trip was no exception. As I sat there relaxing under the shade trying to keep the fly’s off, I started watching a 3-year old boy playing in the shallow end of the pool. He caught my attention because he was right in front of where we were sitting.
I know, not so earth shattering right….. A small boy playing in a pool.
The discovery came after watching him for several hours. From the time we got there until shortly before we left, this young boy was completely entertained and overjoyed over his flip flops.
He found all kinds of ways to get the maximum joy out of them without getting bored or distracted.
He’d put them on his feet and walk around in the pool.
Use them as boats as he pushed them all around.
Threw them (as far as a 3-year old could) so he could retrieve them again.
Push them under the water and be in awe as he watched the water slowly engulf them just so he could pull them back out.
He found so many ways to enjoy these simple $1.99 flip flops for hours. He wasn’t concerned that the kid right next to him had a fancy new inflatable that his mom spent 15 minutes blowing up, that the girl had noodle or that one of the kids had a floatie paddle board. Nope, none of it mattered a bit. He was 1000% content with his flip flops.
Being an adult is amazing because we have so many choices in life, but sometimes all these choices create massive confusion which creates massive blocks in our psyche and energy. All these choices and blocks create confusion, frustration and major overwhelm (aka self-sabotage).
When I started my first product-based company Once Upon A Scribble™, my only focus was on one product – my poetry line. And I was crushing it!
Unfortunately, I found out the hard way how distractions and allowing what everyone else is doing dictate the path of your business is a deadly move. I’m all for growth as long as it’s aligned growth based on your long-game.
Show up in your business hyper-focused without allowing other peoples agendas to creep in and dilute yours is how you gain traction. Clarity is a game-changer! If you’re ready to ditch the distraction, get clear and stop the self-sabotage, bust through the business blocks that are keeping you from stepping into your highest power, check out my new course – created specifically for confused, frustrated, self-sabotaging entrepreneurs who’re ready to up-level.
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Sitting through the class was like sitting in the middle of the desert while a sandstorm blew all around you, the sun a steady 118 degrees with zero moisture… seriously dry and boring!
The class was statistics.
I’m actually not sure if it was the teacher or the topic that contributed to the difficulty 95% of the students had in staying engaged.
I say this because in high school I took a equally boring class in biology, so much so that I ended up not passing and to my utter horror ended up having to repeat it during summer school. The contrast between teachers however, made all the difference. I absolutely loved the summer school class. Same subject, same content, but taught in an entirely fun and enjoyable way. I aced it by the way.
In high school I didn’t really care about grades, probably because I had entrepreneurial parents who didn’t buy into the dogma that traditional school was the gateway to achieving success as an adult.
But when I committed to completing my MBA after several years of marriage and a kid and a half later (I was pregnant with #2) all that changed. I didn’t have scholarships or parents in a position to pay for my education so I wasn’t going to settle for anything less than an A. I was going all in!
I set the intention, focused on the end-game and did what I needed to do to make it happen. Six years later, with only a few classes left to go and child number 3 on the way, I knew I was going to graduate with a 4.0. I had done it!
My third child was born 7 days before the last day of my statistics class and it was a requirement and a big chunk of the grade to give a final group presentation. There was no rescheduling, family time-off, or personal situational consideration. You presented or you got stuck with a less than stellar grade – um…. ya… not an option!
So there I was holding a 7 day old baby (we won’t get into why I had to bring her along – trust me it wasn’t my first choice) in front of the class trying to give a statistical presentation. It started off fine but anyone who’s had a newborn knows, they seem to have not-so-perfect timing. After the crying started…. it was all over. I wasn’t going to impress anyone with my numbers, let alone the teacher.
I excused myself and went into the ladies bathroom to nurse. If it wasn’t for the fact that a room full of my peers watched me walk out and was probably waiting for my return entrance, I would have been crying right along side my infant inside the cramped stall.
When my final grades came in I wasn’t surprised but more hurt. I would have thought for sure the teacher would have given me sympathy points or tenacity points for even showing up knowing I had just given birth. After six years of A’s I got my first B+. I freaked!
Getting over perfectionism is something I have to be mindful of to this day. I see this same type of perfectionism in my clients and how it holds entrepreneurs back from showing up as their most authentic self. Somewhere along the journey, we’ve picked up that we have to be perfect. For me it was a lot of little things that added up to one biggie. For you it might be one prominent memory, comment or situation.
But left unchecked, perfectionism can kill the most badass business idea – it literally happens every minute of every day. It’s one of the 24 business blocks we focus on clearing inside the Business Blockbuster Bootcamp™.
If you’ve got perfection paralysis, check out the course Business Blockbuster Bootcamp™. Inside the course we focus on clearing 24 of the most common business blocks that keep entrepreneurs stuck in self-sabotage.
See you inside
You got this! Wendy
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Your scrolling through your feed and there it is. Staring right back at you almost mocking how much farther she is in her business.
It’s another post from someone you follow regularly having yet another success. WTF… seriously… how is it that “she” is having so much success and I’m not.
It seems like I’ve been trying to make my business pay off forever and I just can’t seem to get traction to actually move my business forward and make some real money.
Let me start by saying that you’re not alone.
A million and a half times a day, someone, somewhere is feeling the exact same way. Comparison is very real, and so is the damage it leaves in it’s wake when we allow it to overtake our hearts desires.
What you don’t see is the years of learning, costly mistakes, blood, sweat and tears that got her to where she is. You are seeing the now but the truth is there is a whole other back story that would probably shock you.
The difference between her and you is that she kept going. Despite everything, she didn’t give up. She continued to learn, grow, shift her focus and get better every day which ultimately lead to her success, the success you’ve become envious of.
It’s the confusing messy journey that becomes the foundation of almost every successful entrepreneur because in the depths of frustration, confusion becomes clarity, fear becomes fuel and procrastination becomes inspired action.
Lie #1. Follow a set of rules or guidelines
Fact: Every entrepreneur has a different road to success that is 100% dictated by what they believe to be true. It is their vibrational equivalent that dictates success.
Lie #2. You have to hustle
Fact: This is only true if that’s what you believe it to be. Otherwise, it can be fun and easy. Again, it comes down to what you believe. You can run a flow business that is entirely dictated by inspired action – doing things not because you have to, but because you are inspired to.
Lie #3. Instant success
Fact: Every successful entrepreneur started out knowing nothing they just kept going.
Don’t give up on your dreams just because someone else is farther along than you. You have just as much as a gift/service to share with the world – the only difference is, you’re getting in your own way. Time to Bust through those self-sabotaging blocks and do what you were put here to do.
p.s. If your not sure how to move past your blocks, or even how to identify what they are, here’s a helpful quiz (come back for the link – quiz will be posted soon)
p.s.s. If you’re not addressing your business blocks, you’ll keep finding ways to sabotage your business success without even realizing it
I started doing some powerful asking. Two of the questions I asked myself were:
Am I living to my highest potential?
Am I rising above self-created limitation?
I’m a success coach, high vibe entrepreneur, energy practitioner and alignment expert so when I really sat down and had a deep conversation with my higher self. I was shocked to discover that the answer to both of these questions was a solid “no.”
It was a hard pill to swallow, but I needed to be totally transparent and clear with myself on why I wasn’t showing up more. Why I wasn’t sharing my message more fully.
You see, I have a book inside me. I have for a long…long… time. But there is always something else to do. More clients to coach, errands to run, art to make, house to clean, papers to organize, nap to take ;). When there is time, the excuses surface. Too busy, menopause, not feeling in flow, not enough time in the day…..blah…blah…blah..
I wanted to get to the heart of my resistance for not just sucking it up and doing the work. Truth is that when I starting asking some really deep questions it all came back to fear. Fear of not being good enough, fear of opening up and sharing my truth and instead of praise receiving silence. Fear of not coming through authentically enough, fear of not articulating the message, just a crap load of FEAR.
But here’s the thing…. I target energetic emotional blocks and remove them for a living. In fact, I’m a bad-ass ninja when it comes to removing resistance and alignment.
Me, fear… hell no! kick that shit to the curb and get on with it. Yet, it still showed up.
Here’s the gold that came from that powerful questioning AWARENESS!!! I don’t care who you are or what your going through. Once you have awareness, everything changes.
I’ve started my outline, first 2 chapters nearly done, title done and vision for the cover done! I’m setting a goal to have my book completely written by the end of 2017 so I can kick of 2018 with a major win… publishing 😉
Here’s to deep questioning, making space for showing up 100% authentically, embracing the fear and doing it anyway 🙂
oodles of love
p.s. I’ll be teaching a mini course on “powerful questioning” that you’ll totally love. I’m over the moon thrilled to start offering mini sessions that will range from $7.00 – $49.00. These will be live coaching courses with PDF’s and super actionable.
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