Sitting through the class was like sitting in the middle of the desert while a sandstorm blew all around you, the sun a steady 118 degrees with zero moisture… seriously dry and boring!
The class was statistics.
I’m actually not sure if it was the teacher or the topic that contributed to the difficulty 95% of the students had in staying engaged.
I say this because in high school I took a equally boring class in biology, so much so that I ended up not passing and to my utter horror ended up having to repeat it during summer school. The contrast between teachers however, made all the difference. I absolutely loved the summer school class. Same subject, same content, but taught in an entirely fun and enjoyable way. I aced it by the way.
In high school I didn’t really care about grades, probably because I had entrepreneurial parents who didn’t buy into the dogma that traditional school was the gateway to achieving success as an adult.
But when I committed to completing my MBA after several years of marriage and a kid and a half later (I was pregnant with #2) all that changed. I didn’t have scholarships or parents in a position to pay for my education so I wasn’t going to settle for anything less than an A. I was going all in!
I set the intention, focused on the end-game and did what I needed to do to make it happen. Six years later, with only a few classes left to go and child number 3 on the way, I knew I was going to graduate with a 4.0. I had done it!
My third child was born 7 days before the last day of my statistics class and it was a requirement and a big chunk of the grade to give a final group presentation. There was no rescheduling, family time-off, or personal situational consideration. You presented or you got stuck with a less than stellar grade – um…. ya… not an option!
So there I was holding a 7 day old baby (we won’t get into why I had to bring her along – trust me it wasn’t my first choice) in front of the class trying to give a statistical presentation. It started off fine but anyone who’s had a newborn knows, they seem to have not-so-perfect timing. After the crying started…. it was all over. I wasn’t going to impress anyone with my numbers, let alone the teacher.
I excused myself and went into the ladies bathroom to nurse. If it wasn’t for the fact that a room full of my peers watched me walk out and was probably waiting for my return entrance, I would have been crying right along side my infant inside the cramped stall.
When my final grades came in I wasn’t surprised but more hurt. I would have thought for sure the teacher would have given me sympathy points or tenacity points for even showing up knowing I had just given birth. After six years of A’s I got my first B+. I freaked!
Getting over perfectionism is something I have to be mindful of to this day. I see this same type of perfectionism in my clients and how it holds entrepreneurs back from showing up as their most authentic self. Somewhere along the journey, we’ve picked up that we have to be perfect. For me it was a lot of little things that added up to one biggie. For you it might be one prominent memory, comment or situation.
But left unchecked, perfectionism can kill the most badass business idea – it literally happens every minute of every day. It’s one of the 24 business blocks we focus on clearing inside the Business Blockbuster Bootcamp™.
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You got this! Wendy
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It’s not often I share my dreams with others. They’re personal, validating, inspiring and sometimes down right cruel in their messaging. Cruel, but needed nonetheless. But no matter how they show up or what message I’m meant to receive, it’s always…without fail, exactly what I need to hear.
It’s rare I have the kind of dream that exposes the messaging in a way a kindergartner would understand it. No, that’s not my guides, higher self, universe, or whoever is at the helm shouting out commands likes to give it to me. I’m blessed with the task of reading between the lines, meditating for meaning, pondering for purpose… basically I’ve got to figure it out… whatever “it” is.
I say blessed because it forces me to stop and pause. Clearly someone or something is making their presence known and it’s an important enough message that “they” took the time to interrupt me in my blissful slumber hoping to sneak in some intervention and wisdom when the competition for brain space is at it’s weakest.
Last night was no exception.
The dream: I was in an elevator with one other female. We were both without clothes and it was okay (it wasn’t shameful or bad). We were just having a light conversation when the doors opened to one of the floors and a well-dressed gentleman that seemed to be in his 30s walked in. As the doors closed and the elevator began to rise, the gentleman looked at me and said, “you will make it to the executive level.” He then turned his attention to my elevator companion and said, “you will make it to the top.”
Stunned by this strangers message, I asked a simple question and got a simple yet profound answer.
My question…”We’re both talented, showing up authentic (I gathered this was the reason for the nakedness), driven, passionate, purposeful, etc., why do you believe she will make it to the top and I will only reach the executive level?”
His answer stunned and delighted me at the same time. “Because she is going for gold and you are not.”
I never dreamed of going for gold. Until this prolific dream, I knew I was doing the work, showing up, learning, growing, giving back, etc. But until that moment with all my “effort” it hadn’t even occurred to me that I had been playing as a participant with the possibility of winning bronze or silver and most certainly was not showing up as a gold medalist.
The question I’ll leave you with is this… are you showing up as a spectator, participant or are you going for gold?
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Love and light Wendy
I started doing some powerful asking. Two of the questions I asked myself were:
Am I living to my highest potential?
Am I rising above self-created limitation?
I’m a success coach, high vibe entrepreneur, energy practitioner and alignment expert so when I really sat down and had a deep conversation with my higher self. I was shocked to discover that the answer to both of these questions was a solid “no.”
It was a hard pill to swallow, but I needed to be totally transparent and clear with myself on why I wasn’t showing up more. Why I wasn’t sharing my message more fully.
You see, I have a book inside me. I have for a long…long… time. But there is always something else to do. More clients to coach, errands to run, art to make, house to clean, papers to organize, nap to take ;). When there is time, the excuses surface. Too busy, menopause, not feeling in flow, not enough time in the day…..blah…blah…blah..
I wanted to get to the heart of my resistance for not just sucking it up and doing the work. Truth is that when I starting asking some really deep questions it all came back to fear. Fear of not being good enough, fear of opening up and sharing my truth and instead of praise receiving silence. Fear of not coming through authentically enough, fear of not articulating the message, just a crap load of FEAR.
But here’s the thing…. I target energetic emotional blocks and remove them for a living. In fact, I’m a bad-ass ninja when it comes to removing resistance and alignment.
Me, fear… hell no! kick that shit to the curb and get on with it. Yet, it still showed up.
Here’s the gold that came from that powerful questioning AWARENESS!!! I don’t care who you are or what your going through. Once you have awareness, everything changes.
I’ve started my outline, first 2 chapters nearly done, title done and vision for the cover done! I’m setting a goal to have my book completely written by the end of 2017 so I can kick of 2018 with a major win… publishing 😉
Here’s to deep questioning, making space for showing up 100% authentically, embracing the fear and doing it anyway 🙂
oodles of love
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On a recent vacation to Mesa Verde National Park, we attended an educational ceremony on the ancestral people of that region. I have always been a firm believer in the importance of rituals (as are most energy workers). If you search any ancient culture, you will find a plethora of various rituals that were sacred to each of these cultures. One of my favorites is that of blessing the earth prior to establishing a village. This was done by incorporating elaborate dress, beating of drums, and dancing all around the area. If you dissect this on an energy level, it makes perfect sense.
- Setting the intention to bless the ground.
- Incorporating colors into the elaborate dress (and vibration with the use of shells incorporated into the design).
- Vibrational rhythmic energy with the intensity of drums.
- Dancing – taking physical action as well as matching the energy vibration of the drums and the energy of the individual with that of the earth.
There are so many examples of ancient cultures establishing rituals. This experience has made me realize just how significant they are in working with universal source energy. I know that finding my own personal rituals has not only been an extremely healing experience but also makes me feel connected to my spirit guides and ancestors. If you are searching for a way to incorporate rituals that are more personal to you, be open, ask your guides and allow yourself to play. Rituals and right action should trigger a sense of well-being at a souls level.
Love and Light
So, you’ve been sitting there in your little boat for a while observing. Deep down wondering why you have yet to reach your destination when everyone else made it to shore months before. Finally, you reach your breaking point and decide the waiting ends today! You stand up fists clenched down to your sides and yell out to the universe “why not me, when will it be MY turn?” You stand there in silence holding your breath waiting for a reply, any reply. You desperately want to be heard. Nothing, nothing but more deafening silence. You let out a sigh as you resume your place on the boat. Angry, frustrated and sick of waiting for “your turn.” You take the ores place them in the water and begin to paddle anxiously towards the land in the distance.
Before long you feel the breeze pick up ever so slightly and you notice your paddling becomes easier, lighter and requires less of your own energy. With the soothing sounds of the ocean waves and the breeze cooling your skin from the heat of the sun, your anxiety subsides and you relax into the ride. The direction of the wind could not be more perfect as it guides you effortlessly through the sea. Without even realizing that the full journey to get to where you are now took months, you feel peace surging throughout your body as your boat comes to rest softly upon the shore.
Decide today to end the drifting! In this moment decide exactly what you want, chart your course, commit your course to memory and know that the universe is on your side.
~Namaste Wendy Ann